ABOUT THE REAL STAGES OF GRIEF: A Journey Through Loss by D G Kaye @pokercubster

 5 out of 5 stars

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How I discovered this book: I read about it on Sally Cronin's blog

In a Nutshell: A personal account of grief after the loss of a spouse

D G Kaye lost her beloved husband to cancer in spring 2021, and she has written here about much that she has been through during his illness and since.

The blurb says 'I write not only for those who are grieving, but also for the ones who walk beside them—for the friends, family, and witnesses to heartbreak—so they might understand, even a little, what it means to live with loss', and she's achieved that in spades - DG is so open about her emotions that it made me want to go round and hold her hand.  Could be that I found it so because it's something anyone who has a long and happy marriage dreads, especially as we get older; I could feel her pain all the way through it - and I felt angry on her behalf, too, about how the situation was exacerbated by the 'Covid' fiasco.

The book is divided into many short chapters, delving into so many aspects of loss - emotional, practical, health, social, keeping yourself safe, the zigzagging between coping and not coping, distraction mechanisms, dangers and acceptance of sorts.  Her writing is so honest and I can see how much thought has gone into the structure.  It's not a long book, and is very easy to read.

I hope it helped DG to write this, in some way - if nothing else, she should be assured that this is bound to help others, if it hasn't already.  Buy it for anyone who is going through this, read it yourself if someone close to you is suffering.  

The Secret Life of Jasper Scragg by Charlotte French #RBRT

 4 out of 5 stars

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How I discovered this book: it was submitted to Rosie's Book Review Team, of which I am a member.

In a Nutshell: Quirky Aussie domestic drama

Poor Jasper Scragg doesn't have a very good opinion of himself, and the fall-out from his impulsive decisions makes him feel a heck of a lot worse.  Capable wife Zoe, who he adores, is dealing with her own inability to carry a child, and they hope their move to the small town of Woolloolobah will give them a fresh start, especially as Zoe's best friend Sabine and her husband Ned live there.  Sabine and Ned have a large family, and a close relationship with the children gives Zoe and Jasper some comfort in their childlessness, at the same time as, sometimes, twisting the knife.

Jasper has a secret to contend with - three months before the move, he was unfaithful to Zoe.  Just once, a drunken mistake, but it's coming back to haunt him.

I very much liked the tone in which this was written; I'd been dreading that it might be self-consciously 'humorous', which could have been ghastly, but it wasn't at all.  There is a certain dark humour to some aspects, including the characterisation, which really worked, but it is, essentially, a straight domestic drama.  

The story kept me interested all the way through, though I was not too sure I liked any of the characters very much.  Zoe seemed like a cold fish (though one had to understand all that she went through), Jasper needed a good shake (though we later find out more about his upbringing, which explains a lot), Sabine and Ned irritated me in small ways, though I rather liked the younger Yasmin - any bad decisions could be put down to the self-obsession and craziness of youth.  I came to the conclusion that my feelings towards the characters showed how real they were, in all their positive and negative traits.

At times I felt it could have been chopped down a little and given a bit more 'oomph', but basically it's a solid family drama that I'm happy to recommend.

A SONG OF SIXPENCE by Judith Arnopp @JudithArnopp

 5 out of 5 stars

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How I discovered this book: from the back catalogue of one of my favourite authors.

In a Nutshell: the story of Elizabeth of York and Perkin Warbeck

Having recently read Judith Arnopp's latest book, about Margaret of Anjou (review HERE), I was still in Wars of the Roses headspace, and had to read more.  This starts a little while before Elizabeth of York (daughter of Edward IV and Elizabeth Woodville) marries Henry VII as a result of his victory in battle over Richard III.  Running alongside Elizabeth's trials, hopes, fears and joys as Henry's queen is the story of Perkin Warbeck, who claimed to be her brother Richard, one of the two princes in the tower whose fate remains a mystery to this day.

This book made me think of Phillippa Gregory's book The White Queen, in that Ms Arnopp has chosen the storyline that Perkin Warbeck actually was Richard; I liked this.  Her version is absolutely feasible, and ditto what happened to Prince Edward.  In fact, not just feasible but likely.

I liked Elizabeth, I wanted to like Henry, and was pleased when they found happiness.  Most interesting, also, was how Henry VIII the child was portrayed, and the differing personalities of his surviving sisters.  The Mary of this book absolutely would have run off and married Henry Cavill, no problem!

Loved it.  Every word.