5 out of 5 stars
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How I discovered this book: I read about it on Sally Cronin's blog
In a Nutshell: A personal account of grief after the loss of a spouse
D G Kaye lost her beloved husband to cancer in spring 2021, and she has written here about much that she has been through during his illness and since.
The blurb says 'I write not only for those who are grieving, but also for the ones who walk beside them—for the friends, family, and witnesses to heartbreak—so they might understand, even a little, what it means to live with loss', and she's achieved that in spades - DG is so open about her emotions that it made me want to go round and hold her hand. Could be that I found it so because it's something anyone who has a long and happy marriage dreads, especially as we get older; I could feel her pain all the way through it - and I felt angry on her behalf, too, about how the situation was exacerbated by the 'Covid' fiasco.
The book is divided into many short chapters, delving into so many aspects of loss - emotional, practical, health, social, keeping yourself safe, the zigzagging between coping and not coping, distraction mechanisms, dangers and acceptance of sorts. Her writing is so honest and I can see how much thought has gone into the structure. It's not a long book, and is very easy to read.
I hope it helped DG to write this, in some way - if nothing else, she should be assured that this is bound to help others, if it hasn't already. Buy it for anyone who is going through this, read it yourself if someone close to you is suffering.
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